EPISODE 26
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[00:00:00] Welcome to Live Radiant, the podcast where we reclaim ourselves, align with the rhythm of the moon and step fully into our power. I'm Ava, your guide to a life of flow, clarity, and limitless radiance. If you've ever felt stuck, burnt out, or disconnected from your own brilliance, you are in the right place.

Here we blend lunar wisdom, energetic balance, and deep soul alignment to help you release the noise, trust yourself completely, and create a life that feels as magical as you are. Each week we unlock the secrets of the moon, harness, the power of the law of resonance, and shift out of hustle, culture, and into divine timing, so you can stop forcing and start flowing.

It is time to let go of what dims your light and live radiant. Let's dive in.

Welcome back to Live Radiant. [00:01:00] I'm Ava, and today's episode is a truth that so many of us need to hear. If you have ever felt like you had to dim your light or soften your truth, or shrink your energy, just to keep the peace with people around you who are living in fear, this one's for you.

Whether it's someone in your family, a friend, your partner, strangers on the road. Or the collective energy that we navigate through every day. It can be really challenging to hold a high frequency when the world around you feels stuck in lack, in scarcity, in survival. And this episode is your reminder and a reclamation and a roadmap on how to stay radiant without taking on other people's stress.

How to stop misusing your sacred energy to stabilize dysfunction and distortion, and how [00:02:00] to remain sovereign while keeping an open connection point through love. The only frequency where we truly meet others in, because we're not here to fix, to fall on or to collapse. We're here to stand in our power and in our light, inviting others to rise when they are ready.

Let's dive in.

Here we go.

Hey there, it's Ava in this episode today. This is some medicine because if you are on this radiant path, the path to enlightenment, the path to becoming lit from within, you have probably felt the tension of what I'm about to name. How do you stay radiant, clear, sovereign, grounded when most of the world, the most of the population of humanity, is really stuck in a fear frequency right now.

Whether it is your partner, your family, people, you [00:03:00] pass by the energy of the collective, we're surrounded by people whose source of energy is still the system. It's still rooted in survival. Still the static of lack of urgency, and meanwhile, your source is source. You've chosen love as your bottom line, and that doesn't just mean being loving toward others.

It also means being loving towards yourself, and it means prioritizing your own wellbeing and your own inner peace, your own knowing, even when those around you can't feel it yet because when love is truly your bottom line, that includes you too. Otherwise, it's just another performance. Another way to abandon yourself in the name of harmony.

So when you ground yourself and when you calm that static and you [00:04:00] stay tethered and anchored in you truth, it's not for others, it's really for you, and it's for that. You who refuses to shape shift. Just to be palatable, to not ruffle any feathers. It's for you who remembers the original design of life and of you and of how things can be, and you're done apologizing for knowing it and living it.

And for me, this has gotten really real in a lot of my relationships lately. Because not everyone is on the deep spiritual path that I'm on, and that's okay. But when things are feeling uncertain and someone else's stress has gone up, I am catching myself collapsing to soothe. And it's not because I believe in the fear, but it [00:05:00] was because an ancient part of me.

Something embedded in my DNA thinks that I still am responsible for fixing it when someone else is upset, and that if I can just regulate the other person, then I'll be safe and I'll be loved and I'll maintain that connection. And what I've come to realize is that this is what was showing up for me, is this the lesser known but.

A common survival response in women called men didn't attend. So we hear a lot about fight flight, right? Freeze, fawn, all of those. But men didn't attend is a survival response that shows up in women particularly, and it's in, it's the instinct to restore harmony, to fix what's been ruptured and to [00:06:00] make things okay, to maintain our connection, to maintain our connection, to love with another person.

It's our nervous system's way of saying, if I can just keep the peace, then I'll be safe. If I can just make sure that they're okay, then I won't get abandoned. I'll be safe. And it's a really deeply encoded program, especially for women because of our survival for centuries was tied to being agreeable, being nurturing, being helpful.

But the thing is, mend and attend, acting out of that response, it's a survival response. It's not thriving. So that's not living radiant. It's a survival posture and it keeps you tending to dysfunction in instead of standing in truth and living, radiant, living from light, from love. [00:07:00] And so that's the re-patterning that we're going to do in this episode.

We're gonna be done using our sacred energy to regulate the storms that other people are experiencing. We're here to hold the frequency of truth and let the room, the world around us reorient to that be so rooted in our power and our truth, that the reality around us rearranges itself to resonate with our frequency.

Because I am not here to transmute distortion and neither are you. I am not here to stabilize fear-based realities and neither are you. And I have spent enough of my life misapplying my power to manage atmospheres around me instead of living radiant, and I know that I'm not alone.

So if you've ever been asking [00:08:00] yourself , how do I stay clear when the people I love are caught in a panic?

How do I hold my frequency in a world that's still exiled itself from God? And how do I stay compassionate and. Live with an open heart and in that frequency of love without collapsing in response to what's going on around me

because it's not just about spiritual compatibility, it's about energetic sovereignty, and it's about knowing what is yours to carry and what is not.

Is you are not here to shrink your field to soothe anyone.

You're here to be rooted in your own power, in the love frequency of your own heart, and to create and to generate, [00:09:00] to radiate a new atmosphere from there, and let that clarity ripple. And reorient everything around you.

And so the invitation is this, not to disconnect, not to harden, but to remember that love generates the field. Love is the field, and sovereignty is the structure of that field, which means it's time to come back into integrity with your own energy and before you can hold your peace with and for others, you.

It must reclaim all the parts of you that are still unconsciously entangled the parts of you that believe that it's your job to manage, to fix, or to soften the edges of what isn't yours. So let's begin with the first shift.

The first shift is break the [00:10:00] agreement, so I want you to say out loud, I break all unconscious contracts that say I must absorb or fix another stress to stay loved, safe, or whole. I return all responsibility for emotional regulation to where it belongs. I no longer collapse my knowing to make someone else feel okay.

And just notice how you felt hearing those words. How did you feel saying those words out loud if you did, or just hearing me say them? Did you feel empowered? Did you feel stronger? Or did it trigger something in you? Did you feel uncomfortable? Did you feel a little confusion? [00:11:00] No matter what it is, it's fine.

It's just being aware of your response and then if there was some resistance to them, then I like to just place my hand on my heart and just breathe really deeply and then say them again. And allow my body to feel safe in receiving the truths and activating them within my body, and becoming aware of the upgrade that I'm getting, this energetic upgrade that I'm getting when I speak these truths out loud.

And then the second part, return to your field. So when someone else's stress arises around you ask yourself, Hey, is this mine? Or am I shape shifting to survive a frequency that I've already evolved beyond?

[00:12:00] Is this mine? Is this a belief or a thought that needs to be cleared? Or is it someone else's and letting them have that, not trying to fix it or shift it or do anything for them, not using power to transmute distortion in lower frequencies.

If you find yourself getting caught up in the stress, the storm of someone else who has taken in a fear-based frequency, stop, acknowledge, and placed your hand on your heart and remind yourself

my knowing of the truth is not dangerous.

My peace is not a threat.

My field does not need to apologize for its power, for its strength, and for its sovereignty.

And just taking this [00:13:00] step, this level of awareness and affirmation of your truth and full acceptance, that you don't need to apologize for remaining peaceful when someone else is in a stress mode. Will. Be such an alleviation of weight on your shoulders, you will have more energy for yourself, , for your life.

This is a game changer to just stop in a moment where you're feeling stress arise. And return to love as your bottom line and see the situation for what it really is. And this is in a completely non-judgmental way. This is not getting angry at another person [00:14:00] because they are experiencing fear and the survival responses that come with that.

It's letting them be and maintaining your own sovereignty.

The key to doing this successfully really is in being completely nonjudgmental about it and being in such a place of peace with where you are at, that you can just let the other person be. Because if you have even just a little bit of ego. Just that little bit of judgment or wanting the other person to be responding differently, which is also coming from ego.

It's because they're not willing to accept things as they are in that moment. Then you will be [00:15:00] participating in the lower frequency. If you are projecting judgements, even if it's just in thought form, even if you don't say anything out loud. So while this step really is a game changer in order to do it effectively you've gotta do it from a place of pure love for yourself.

Now the third part of this is to create a new sovereign bond. So if this is someone who you're in relationship with, they're in your life, you want them to be in your life, resist any urge to argue with them. Or trying to change them or the situation in any way.

Here's what you say.

I trust what's unfolding. I see what's happening, and I honor the moment, [00:16:00] and I also hold the vision beyond it. I am not ignoring reality. I'm entirely focused on creating a new one,

and you don't have to believe in it in order for me to hold it

and then stop convincing and let your life be the proof of it.

When you're doing this, you're not abandoning your relationships because you're not abandoning yourself and your relationship with yourself. You are ending your participation in a dynamic that has told you have to shrink in order to soothe, and that you have to soothe. You're not cold or uncaring or unloving for remaining rooted in your power and love and truth when people around you are feeling shook up, you're [00:17:00] coherent. Your field is coherent. You are only responsible for your own peace. You are not responsible for the peace of anyone else.

Your responsibility is to be the conductor of that frequency until peace returns to the room,

and then when you're in that place, when you're really rooted in that, then you are letting those around you feel what you feel. You're giving them an opportunity to feel what you feel by remaining open and loving, but not in a way that is conducive to you ingesting fear-based frequencies in lower energy. You stay rooted in your truth. You stay aligned in your field, right? You stay [00:18:00] funded, you stay sourced by source.

One more piece to this is it's not just about things sovereign in this frequency. It's about keeping the portal of connection open because we don't wanna wall ourselves off. And that creates feelings of isolation and then rejection on the other side of that. And it doesn't lead to expansion.

We're here to stay open, but only through love, divine love. That's the decision that I've made is that no matter how much fear someone else is living in. If they have love in their hearts, which everyone in my life does, I can choose to remain open to connecting with them through that frequency and only that frequency.

I don't match their fear in order to stay connected. I don't want any [00:19:00] connection points at those low frequencies of fear. Because my bottom line is love, right? My standard for life, for all of the energy in my life is love, love or above. So I don't collapse my field to meet people in lack, , but I do stay open in that frequency of love, and I can choose love over and over again every time and when I'm with others, I can consciously hold that invitation for them to meet me there as they're ready.

I'm here in this space. I am here in the frequency of love, and you are always welcome to meet me here. Always welcome. That's how we stay in relationship without sacrificing our sovereignty and without abandoning ourselves. It's how we stay open [00:20:00] without creating energetic leaks, , or dimming our light.

We don't shame someone else for being where they're at. But we also don't shrink to try to make it easier for them. We just hold the doorway open, which is a portal of pure divine love and trust that as they're ready, when it's their time, they'll step through. And that is God's work. That is the work of God through us.

And that's what we're really here to do. It's not forcing, it's not fixing, and it's certainly not forsaking ourselves. It's standing as the living invitation or portal to the frequency of love or above.

This is how we live Radiant in a world that is [00:21:00] still subscribing to fear as its source while we are sourcing source, and this is how we lead without losing ourselves. This is how we stay open without shrinking. This is how we remain wealthy in spirit, in energy, and in truth, we live radiant. And if this episode activated something deep in you, like it did for me, then Radiant Soul Wealth is your next space.

This is a private mentorship container with me where we train in wealth sovereignty. It's not just about money, but with energy, relationships, reality itself. We don't shrink to soothe. We don't collapse to coexist, we stay sourced, clear and radiant. Radiant Soul Wealth is open. There are still three seats available, so you can step inside whenever you're ready.

Link is in the show notes

i'll see you in the next episode. Until then, stay [00:22:00] radiant.